Here’s the thing we need to remember, and I think we often forget! It’s his day too! And it is my job to make sure the ceremony and reception are pleasing to everyone involved- regardless of gender!
Here’s a few ways I believe us ladies can work to make grooms around the world feel like they are more involved in the planning process. After all, they should be! It’s not just a girl’s thing, guys...it’s a life thing!
Involve him from the beginning.
Once the planning starts, make the groom feel like his opinions are important. Bring him to that first consultation with your wedding planner. Take him to every stop along the way- the wine and food tastings, the meeting with your officiant, and so on! Ask him what he wants, and work to find a way to make this coincide with your vision. Let him know it is NOT taboo for a groom to be a part of all of these special moments!
I believe this is super important and almost serves as a nice little exercise on working together. Though your future husband may say he doesn’t care what set of kitchen glasses or towels you receive, chances are deep down he has an opinion (we know they always do!). By registering together, you get to make decisions about items you will share together in the years to come!
Ask Him to Work on Projects!
With many weddings, there are always things that need to be built! Whether its a platform for the ceremony to take place on, a wooden centerpiece for a table, or even painting a “here comes your bride” sign, this could motivate him to contribute to the process!
Additionally, task your groom with booking bands or DJ’s...I recommend double checking behind him… :).
Give Him a Space at the Wedding that is His!
Grooms like to have their space- even at the reception! Perhaps your guy would enjoy setting up a cigar bar to enjoy with his buddies. Or, a whiskey bar to take the edge off after the ceremony!
Write Your Own Vows!
The practice of writing your own vows is being utilized by couples more and more! It allows for an intimate, personal display of affection. It takes us away from the traditional “I ___ take you ___!” (nothing wrong with traditional, by the way!) to what can be an emotionally charged moment of a ceremony. By writing your own vows, the groom will have to search deep to find the right words to contribute to the ceremony!
Wheww! I know that’s a lot...and might sound challenging. However, I believe having both the bride and groom involved in the planning process can lead to a more cohesive wedding day that pleases both parties!
I hope to meet you...and your husband-to-be very, very soon!
Styling+Planning - Whitney, Whitewood Events
Photography - Ashley Rae Photography
Videography - Love Story Films
Gown - Carol Hannah
Florals - The Wildflower AZ
Hair + Makeup - Pearls Make-Up
Suit - The Black Tux
Venue - Saguaro Lake Ranch
Stationary - Sarah Ingram
Stationary Artwork - Britt Vasina